Organized I am not, Expressive — yes!

I better get down to responding to the feedback I have left unanswered for ages and ages.  I am not playing favorites, but there are topics that elicit a reaction from me faster than I can draft the next blog post.

Adoption is such a topic close to my heart because someone I love was a gift from God, as I call it.  Not that natural children are not — but adopting a child is a choice of love you only receive if God wills you to have it.  “I choose to love you, even if you are not of my flesh and blood.”

But what am I saying above?  John Delrosa stopped by and wrote:

my name is john, i was born in the philippines and now livin in paris, i am married with a gorgeous french woman, aurelie, i am writing you regarding the adoption of a child, we are planning to have a baby but is still want to adopt a baby in the philippines, have you heard if its easier for a balikbayan to adopt a baby in the philippines.

i miss the philippines a lot, and we are also planning to live there next year, i am organizing my business linked to this move, i admire your blog so much, how can you devote so much time, you are so disciplined !

watch out on our diet, dont eat macarons too much…

To be organized is a goal yet to be attained for me, John.  I am in front of my computer when at work, and I just write very spontaneously that is why it does not take me that long to complete an entry.  And as you have probably read, it seems that even when I do such chores as washing dishes, my mind is racing with ideas that are dying to be expressed somehow.  Even as I sit in the car, I want to grab pen and paper to scribble my thoughts down.  I keep journals for my dearest friends which don’t reach them until the thought or feeling has long been forgotten, but everything comes alive again when those words are read.

Adoption and being a balikbayan are two concepts that gel well.  The New Family Code actually encourages adoption specifically of relatives.  The requisites can be challenging but doable and definitely easier than it used to be.  It helps that you are planning to live in the Philippines for a spell.  I have classmates from Ateneo who specialize in this and I can give you recommendations offline if you will e-mail me at (Looking to the heavens and praying that I don’t get a slew of e-mails on legal consultations, etc.)  It is no more difficult than adopting in any country — after all, adoption is a process whereby a child’s future is placed in another’s hand, and while children are sold in other venues, the courts would like to take great caution when they award you this privilege to be a parent.  Believe me, hearing a child say “Papa” or “Mama” (complete with French intonation) will melt your heart.

I am green with envy because you are in the city that, next to Manila and New York, is closest to my heart.  I dream of going back there soon (maybe go with Alan before the year ends) — but we’re no Rockefeller here so if given a choice between hopping on a plane to CDG and saving for a trip back to Manila, I’ll take the prospect of returning to Manila any day!  (Besides, I have gotten nowhere with my attempts to learn French just yet, so maybe it is a good thing I haven’t gone back.)  And don’t worry about the macarons — I think it is a blessing that I have yet to find a pattiserie here in New York that makes them.

I admire you for your desire to adopt despite your plan to have one of your own.  Adoption works such magic.  Personally, it is always heartwarming for me to see Caucasian couples lugging Asian children in Disneyworld or Busch Garden or Universal Studios.  I am always touched when I hear a couple is planning to or has adopted a child.  I have always encouraged people to adopt.  More so for those friends of ours who continue to struggle to have children of their own.  Opening your family to someone who was brought into this world by another is not giving up on having one of your own flesh and blood.  It’s a selfless act of love.  I say if you have the means and a heart big enough for it, by all means! — there are so many children who need love in this world.

Sunny New York for a change

We woke up to a pleasant morning for a change (no rain!).  There’s a tinge of grey in the sky but it was very nice outside — with a cool breeze that will certainly make up for no matter how intense the sun might be today.  It shouldn’t be that hot — our high is forecasted to be in the 70s only.

It’s quiet in the office.  I’m trying to do some catch up and hopefully get my mail out today if not tomorrow.  So I only got to do one of the 5 goals I had for the weekend — that is, empty the remaining luggage in the room and bring it up to the attic.  (FYI, we checked in 8 pieces of luggage but carried some big ones, too.. total in the cart when we arrived was 10 other than what were light enough to carry.) 

We did some catch up with the laundry but will do a second batch tonight.  With Alan gone for the next week and a half, I don’t want to have to do any laundry myself.  I might venture to do some beddings and the washable rain coats perhaps, but no real laundry for me because Alan’s the labandero of the family.

I stayed up late last night making some Nilagang Manok for Angel’s baon at daycare. He’s fine.  For a change, he didn’t run after me or bawl out when he realized I was leaving.  I’m glad I have a very good-natured boy.

I don’t know why but for some reason, I feel so sad that Alan leaves again.  It’s not his first trip out for this long, and he’s only going to San Francisco, but perhaps the fact that he’s doing it when Mom isn’t here yet to help me with the childcare situation that aggravates me.  Or maybe I’m just missing him even before he leaves..

At least he’s back here by father’s day.  The guy is taking a red-eye out of San Francisco to get here by 7AM Sunday.  Still, there’s no getting used to not having him around.  While it means Angel and I will have the bed all to ourselves, I still cannot sleep as easily when he’s not there lying next to us.


Linking to the New York Times

Addendum to feedback written on feedback in my earlier post:

Here’s some information on linking to the (in)famous New York Times.  As I mentioned earlier, there is a membership requirement to view articles that are not in the current day’s edition.  You have to be a member to be able to view articles in the last five days.  Any further than that, you have to upgrade to the paid subscription, otherwise, you will only be able to see a preview of the article you search for.

The membership that allows you to view the most recent articles is free.  It’s always good to have access to free information, but it is useless to put a link to any article in the New York Times archive because the article’s URL transfers once it is in the archives and you will be unable to view unless you have the right subscription.

I would think that other journalism related blogs like Inside PCIJ would have the complete text of the article.  Hope this helps..