I better get down to responding to the feedback I have left unanswered for ages and ages. I am not playing favorites, but there are topics that elicit a reaction from me faster than I can draft the next blog post.
Adoption is such a topic close to my heart because someone I love was a gift from God, as I call it. Not that natural children are not — but adopting a child is a choice of love you only receive if God wills you to have it. “I choose to love you, even if you are not of my flesh and blood.”
But what am I saying above? John Delrosa stopped by and wrote:
my name is john, i was born in the philippines and now livin in paris, i am married with a gorgeous french woman, aurelie, i am writing you regarding the adoption of a child, we are planning to have a baby but is still want to adopt a baby in the philippines, have you heard if its easier for a balikbayan to adopt a baby in the philippines.
i miss the philippines a lot, and we are also planning to live there next year, i am organizing my business linked to this move, i admire your blog so much, how can you devote so much time, you are so disciplined !
watch out on our diet, dont eat macarons too much…
To be organized is a goal yet to be attained for me, John. I am in front of my computer when at work, and I just write very spontaneously that is why it does not take me that long to complete an entry. And as you have probably read, it seems that even when I do such chores as washing dishes, my mind is racing with ideas that are dying to be expressed somehow. Even as I sit in the car, I want to grab pen and paper to scribble my thoughts down. I keep journals for my dearest friends which don’t reach them until the thought or feeling has long been forgotten, but everything comes alive again when those words are read.
Adoption and being a balikbayan are two concepts that gel well. The New Family Code actually encourages adoption specifically of relatives. The requisites can be challenging but doable and definitely easier than it used to be. It helps that you are planning to live in the Philippines for a spell. I have classmates from Ateneo who specialize in this and I can give you recommendations offline if you will e-mail me at email@example.com. (Looking to the heavens and praying that I don’t get a slew of e-mails on legal consultations, etc.) It is no more difficult than adopting in any country — after all, adoption is a process whereby a child’s future is placed in another’s hand, and while children are sold in other venues, the courts would like to take great caution when they award you this privilege to be a parent. Believe me, hearing a child say “Papa” or “Mama” (complete with French intonation) will melt your heart.
I am green with envy because you are in the city that, next to Manila and New York, is closest to my heart. I dream of going back there soon (maybe go with Alan before the year ends) — but we’re no Rockefeller here so if given a choice between hopping on a plane to CDG and saving for a trip back to Manila, I’ll take the prospect of returning to Manila any day! (Besides, I have gotten nowhere with my attempts to learn French just yet, so maybe it is a good thing I haven’t gone back.) And don’t worry about the macarons — I think it is a blessing that I have yet to find a pattiserie here in New York that makes them.
I admire you for your desire to adopt despite your plan to have one of your own. Adoption works such magic. Personally, it is always heartwarming for me to see Caucasian couples lugging Asian children in Disneyworld or Busch Garden or Universal Studios. I am always touched when I hear a couple is planning to or has adopted a child. I have always encouraged people to adopt. More so for those friends of ours who continue to struggle to have children of their own. Opening your family to someone who was brought into this world by another is not giving up on having one of your own flesh and blood. It’s a selfless act of love. I say if you have the means and a heart big enough for it, by all means! — there are so many children who need love in this world.