I got home rather early after attending a business meeting in the city for most of the day. I was excited to post some pictures here in the blog and talk about Manhattan but I decided to bloghop for a bit and visit my usual reads. I landed on Jher’s blog and came upon his post “Let the CRUZifixion begin“ dated August 15. (Underscoring of CRUZ mine) This was in reference to a recent article of Isagani R. Cruz in the Philippine Daily Inquirer last August 12 entitled “Don we now our gay apparel“. I had to read the full article to appreciate Jher’s outrage. And he has a right to be outraged because I personally find the article very disturbing.
No, it isn’t just disturbing, it is an affront to human decency. I say this not just in defense of Jher and Jerome and my friends in the gay community. I say this because one of the persons I love and hold dearest to my heart, my brother Nikky, is gay. I practically raised him with my two other siblings and my parents. He is 18 years younger than me and would’ve been my son if I had not married and had one of my own. He and I continue to be close despite the 10,000 miles separating us.
While I left before he officially entered college, I am very proud of how Nikky has turned out to be a decent human being who loves his family and has an ambition to make something of himself.. His sexual preference notwithstanding, he is a good friend, a devoted brother and son, an aspiring physical therapist, and a person with a kind heart. He dreams of one day sending his niece and nephew to school, of traveling the world and finally joining me here in New York after these years of separation.
Read the article and formulate your own opinion about what was said. It is disappointing that such eloquence was wasted on such a generalization of all homosexuals as being a curse on this society.. I have always held Justice Isagani Cruz in high regard having raved over his almost literary ponencias while he was in the Supreme Court. A truly gifted writer, Justice Cruz can make the simplest of argument sound convincing with illustrative prose. I am not here to malign his writing, I am here to disagree with his point of view. This is a free world — we are allowed to say what we want to say. He is entitled to his opinion, but that doesn’t make it right.
He speaks of a time in our society when there were only one or two homosexuals in the environment he was in. I wouldn’t venture to say there weren’t that many gay men then — society was just too cruel to allow more men to be true to the reality of their sexuality. Coming out then was social suicide.
He laments that “(B)eauty salons now are served mostly by gay attendants including effeminate bearded hairdressers to whom male barbers have lost many of their macho customers.” He pays attention to the bias towards homosexual hairdressers without even as much as considering the fact that many homosexuals have been proven to be more creative and have a better sense for the arts. I have no scientific basis but let their body of work through the decades speak for themselves.
I don’t want to dissect the article point by point. My disagreement with its premise is total. A bigot is defined by Webster.com as “a person obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices; especially : one who regards or treats the members of a group (as a racial or ethnic group) with hatred and intolerance”. I have my own biases and fall victim to prejudice, but I have always believed that there is not one rule that applies to all without exception. The moment we fall prey to making sweeping generalizations, we rob ourselves of the opportunity to see that there is always some good where there is bad. The biggest loss is when we start believing that the bad outweigh the good when in reality, the positives outnumber the negatives.
Isagani Cruz makes exceptions and apologizes to those that he might offend with his diatribe, yet his generalizations are overwhelmingly evident. It is indeed very sad. If indeed there are gays who have conducted themselves decently, apparently, their personal and professional accomplishments have done nothing to lift homosexuals as a class into a community acceptable to Cruz.
The fact that there are bad apples among many should not be cause for us to discard the whole basket. That, I believe, is what makes him guilty of gay bashing. You cannot say some are good but in general they are bad and so we must be careful that we may turn into a gay nation. Because then the hoopla is not about the fact that there are bad gays, but that there are gays amongst us and we must beware of them.
I say we must beware of those who judge their peers by their sexual preference. Just because you’re straight does not mean you are purer of heart.