First of all, apologies for the tardy reply. I had started drafting this in early July and it has lain untouched in my draft box. Life has taken me over as always, and sometimes, dishing out my two cents’ worth by way of giving advice is not always as easy as I normally would write something spontaneous.
I got an e-mail (actually, two emails) but didn’t quite catch the e-mails in a timely manner because I hardly check the email account associated with the blog. Please e-mail me instead at firstname.lastname@example.org.
I didn’t get much details except that someone was hoping to get to law school, didn’t get to the preferred school because of a fraction of a point difference in the required average.
Depressed and sad, what to do?
I had to let out an audible sigh after writing that question. It’s something we must all consider when we set our sights on landing in a particular university or college and we miss the mark. This is not only true for those seeking higher education but also for those trying to get into college (or had tried to get into college). Take heart!
So what do you do when you don’t land where you want to be, or get what you want… I have had to deal with that question many times over in epic proportions over the last two to three years. And as the years went — it seemed to me that the disappointments became bigger and bigger. The heartbreak became harder and harder to bear.
But I moved on.
Without pinning my hopes on ‘luck’, I instead pinned my hopes on ‘faith’ and ‘the universe’. What is it that we say in the vernacular? Kung para sa iyo talaga, magiging iyo. Kung ukol, bubukol. (If it is meant for you, it will be yours. It is mean to be, it will happen.)
We have to determine what it is that means the most to us. What it is that we truly want to achieve. If one thing doesn’t work out, then move on to plan B.
Simply put, if your first school of choice doesn’t accept you (just as UP decided I wasn’t to be part of their student pool), move to another choice. (And I embraced the blue..) It doesn’t mean having to give up your dream — it just means adjusting it.
If it really means a lot to you to actually go to law school, the fact that you did not land in your school of choice shouldn’t shatter that dream. It changes how you realize it, but it doesn’t mean that dream is now unreachable.
A former high school classmate (who is now 48 like me) with three grown children, a public service/media career she was appointed to, endorsements and an actor/husband who the ladies in our generation would not mind waking up next to every day, and whose celebrity has help spread cancer awareness and the message of hope to the public recently posted she was going to audit (observe/sit in) classes in law school. Then followed the comment that she had always wanted to go to law school, and was wondering if she could do it. Kaya kaya? she asked. We all pounced on the question and words of support chimed in from all over. OF COURSE! Kayang-kaya!
First, age is never a detriment. I’ve related this many times that when I took the bar in my mid-twenties, I was in the midst of adults old enough to be my mom and even be my grandma. Never too late to dream, or pursue a dream.
Secondly, her health challenges notwithstanding, she has the money and more importantly the brains. Need I say more?
And that applies to everyone. We have different ‘gifts’ and abilities. Our financial stretch differs from one person to the other, but the financial burden of pursuing ones’ dream can be adjusted. If you can’t afford the more expensive school, go to the one that fits the budget.
“The Best” is not always for everyone. Whether it’s because you cannot make it to that school because your scores or grades didn’t make the cut, or because you are otherwise constrained by other limitations, those are mere challenges that you should find a way around to get to where you want to go. Those of us who are able to get up after a fall do so because we know how to make the most of what we have, and we never lose the hope that things will get better.
And while “better” is relative to how you perceive the world, it is never too far away if only you would look close enough to see how there is so much you have been blessed with.
So four or five years from now, don’t be surprised if this once child star now celebrity mom and public servant in her own right, wife to the once heart throb and cousin to another, is addressed “Attorney”. I know I won’t be surprised — I’ll just chime in and say “It’s about time.”