On Friday nights, I usually end up watching if not at least “listening” to Girl Meets World, a staple on Angelo’s chosen programs to be watched “live” and not “on demand”. I always pick up something worth quoting, but I don’t always get the chance to scribble it down to be able to quote it verbatim. In last night’s episode, it’s not so much a sentence but a phrase.
Two words. Spawned a blog post just after I had hit “publish” on the post I had started writing Friday morning. I don’t know why but those two words resonated with me and a torrent of related thoughts came rushing in. I was only clearing the boy’s dinner and had caught part of the scene.
It made me pause and reflect on those missed opportunities when I could have actually maybe done something different — it leads to one “if” to another. Too many. But it helps us reflect on the things we missed out in terms of making some good of something. Those chances we had to make things right before they went wrong. Or those times we could’ve picked up on something and instead chose to ignore our instincts and let it go.
That’s why when Angelo asks to sit on my lap, even if I’m in the middle of something that makes it inconvenient (like cooking) or if I’d rather sit comfortably on the barstool in the kitchen or my work corner, I drop everything and let him. One day — not too soon, I hope — he will stop asking to do that. At the rate he’s growing up, I probably have a year or so before he’s too tall to sit comfortably on my lap facing me, hugging me like a toddler would. That won’t be a missed opportunity for me.
There will always be things that we might have a choice to go on with or not, people to befriend or not, people to let into our lives or not.. those we should let go of or not.. places to go to or not. And when we choose not to, we let go of the possibilities of what might have become of that. We find ourselves looking back at missed opportunities later on.
The thing is to learn from them instead of dwelling on the what-might-have-beens, and not to let a similar missed opportunity pass you by. Have you any missed opportunities you wish you hadn’t passed up on?